I read a quote today that got me thinking. Not just thinking, but it started getting me upset. Not because of the quote itself, but because of something like this needing to be written. Because there’s so much mom judging happening.
I think we moms should pledge to encourage one another each day. And never judge one another. We’re all desperately trying to do this mothering thing right. -Lysa TerKeurst
Let me start by saying that I love what this quote is saying. I mean, short of extreme scenarios of downright neglect, aren’t we all (as mommies) trying to do the best we can for our little ones?
So even if someone else’s way is different than the way we would personally do it, why are we judging?
We don’t know what that mother is going through. She looks worn down, messy, and frustrated. And yes, she may have spoken to her kids with a short tone, or lost her temper far too easily in your opinion. But the back story? You don’t know it.
Maybe her husband lost his job and she’s barely holding it together. She’s trying to calculate the amount of groceries in the cart so she’s not embarrassed at the register. It’s impossible to do math and have toddlers scream in your ear at the same time, we all know that.
Maybe she’s in the middle of a health scare, and she’s distracted and anxious with the terrifying thoughts running through her mind. Perhaps she is responsible for not only her children, but also taking care of aging parents. The bottom line is – you only saw one small part of her day.
None of us are proud of those moments that we have. I know I’m not the only one who gets frustrated with my child and reacts in a way that makes me feel disheartened. But that is exactly why we need support from our fellow mothers, not judgment. Personally speaking, I don’t need anyone else to make me feel like I’m not a good enough mother during those moments by judging what they don’t know, because I’m already feeling like I’m the worst. Do you?
I am the one who keeps myself up at night, feeling the mommy guilt with just my own words. We as mothers are all on the same side, regardless of whether we work full time, part time, or stay at home. We all work. HARD.
So how about we all make a pact to make our friends feel like Super Mom, especially when they feel the farthest from it! Other mom’s are the only ones who really understand what we go through… So stop judging each other, and start loving each other instead. How are you going to make one of your friends feel good about how they’re doing as a mother today?